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Early Brain Development
Your child's brain began to develop while you were pregnant and continues to grow rapidly after birth. To help the early brain growth of your child...
Love your baby and spend time holding, talking, touching and seeing things together.
Read books, look at pictures, sing songs and enjoy your child!
These activities stimulate your child's physical, mental and
emotional development.
Did you know?
A secure home life is very important for your baby's future.
Children whose parents have talked to them since infancy have better language skills.
A baby develops best when he is talked to, touched, held.
Young children exposed to violence, neglect, and poor nutrition are at higher risk for violent behavior, depression, and mental disorders.
Every child is born with abilities to learn. Positive experiences strengthen their abilities.
Development Guidelines
Your child will develop in his own way and at his own rate. There is a wide range of what is normal!
Your baby needs you to keep track of his milestones for
future reference by doctors and teachers.
It is important to keep notes on your child's
development.

Write down when your child...
— Smiles.
—Rolls over.
—Babbles.
—Lifts head when lying on tummy.
—Sits alone.
—Pulls to a standing position.
—Walks.

If you see that your child is not developing in several of
the areas listed below, talk to your child's doctor or clinic.
From Birth to 3 Months...
Begins to lift head when lying on tummy.
Turns head toward bright colors and lights.
Moves both eyes together in the same direction.
Begins to bring hands and things to mouth.
Begins to swat with hands at objects.
Wiggles and kicks with legs and arms.
Turns head toward sounds.
Responds to loud sounds.
Grasps or holds objects.
Critical! - Babies must be held and hear you talk or sing to them!
Activities
Hold her, cradle her and sing to her.
Read to your baby.
Listen to her, and imitate the sounds she makes.
Set up objects of different colors, shapes, sizes and
textures at baby's eye level.
Place her on her tummy on a blanket on the floor for
short periods of play time.
Play different kinds of soft music.
Toys
Mobiles with objects that face down, contrasting colors and patterns are good.
Music boxes or tape players with soft music.
Soft, brightly colored or patterned toys that make sounds.
Unbreakable mirror attached to side of crib.
Rattles or similar objects to grasp.
By Around 6 Months...
Turns toward sounds.
Reaches for objects.
Rolls over.
Begins to move objects from one hand to the other.
Plays with his feet and toes.
Recognizes and responds to familiar faces.
Begins to babble¨"for example, "bababa", "mamama."
Activities
Keep doing the things your baby enjoys and now try these:
Play "peek-a-boo", "This Little Piggy," and other games.
Call her by name.
Let your baby look in a mirror.
Play with him on a blanket on the floor. Place a few
safe toys nearby for him to reach.
Read books with simple bright pictures and board, cloth
or vinyl pages.
Toys
Textured toys that make sounds.
Soft balls, some that make sounds (even a rolled sock).
Musical toys.
Toys for grasping large measuring spoons, rattles.
Smooth chewable animals—small enough to grasp, too
large to swallow.
Bright pictures for baby to see.
By Around 9 Months...
Looks to the floor when something falls.
Sits without help.
Makes sounds to get attention.
Stands with help.
May become uneasy around strangers.
May try to crawl or find way to reach objects.
Activities
Your child may now enjoy these too:
When she is on her tummy, put a toy in front of her
and praise her efforts to reach it.
Wave and say "bye-bye" when you are leaving.
  Hold your baby in your lap and share books
Ask your baby to help you while you dress her.
Example: "Put your arm through your red shirt. Yea!".
Look at your baby when she tries to "talk." Repeat her
sounds and talk with her.
Let your baby feel different textures. Examples: rough pineapple, soft blanket.
Toys
Rattles and other things that make sounds or music.
Child-safe toy mirror.
Push/pull toys that are small enough to grasp.
Textured balls with different textures and colors.
Toys small enough to grasp, but too large to swallow.
Washable cloth and plastic books
By Around 12 Months...
Begins to pull himself to a standing position.
Tries to imitate scribbling.
Crawls or finds way to get toys he wants.
Waves bye-bye.
Puts objects into a container and stacks two blocks.
Babbles with more sounds.
May be uncomfortable around strangers.
Activities
In addition to what your baby has enjoyed:
Talk to your baby with adult talk during your daily activities. Sing or say simple rhymes.
If you speak a language other than English, speak it with your child.
Spend time playing on the floor with your baby. Example: roll a ball between you.
Give your baby a safe bucket with toys or blocks. Help
him dump toys out and put them back in.
Encourage hand-eye coordination and small motor skills. Play with toys such as nesting cups or measuring cups.
Encourage safe large motor development, climbing on
low soft structures and crawling to explore.
Toys
Large push/pull toys made of soft plastic, such as
trucks and cars.
Boxes to sit in or crawl through.
Toy telephone.
Bath toys that float and hold water—ALWAYS SUPERVISE YOUR CHILD NEAR WATER!
Books with stiff cardboard pages.
Stacking toys and large building blocks.
  Play is your baby's work and how your baby learns!
By Around 18 Months...
Pushes, pulls, and dumps things.
Follows simple directions like "Bring the ball, please."
Looks at pictures and books for short periods of time.
Pulls off shoes and socks.
Walks without help; feeds herself finger foods.
Uses eight to ten words that are easy to understand
like "no," "more," "bye-bye," "mine."
Showing strong likes and dislikes.
Activities
You might try some of the following, as well as the
previous activities your toddler enjoyed:
Play every day on the floor with your toddler. Example: with blocks or push and pull toys (like trucks and cars).
Encourage your baby to tell you what she wants. When she points at something, you can ask, "Do you want the green ball?"
Offer her finger foods or a spoon and help her feed herself.
Name objects your child is using: "Let's put on your blue coat," or "May I have the ball, please?"
Model saying "Please", and "Thank you" when you talk to your child.
Give your toddler stiff board books to enjoy. Read to her. Talk to her about the pictures and stories.
Toys
Containers with loose lids.
Dolls, stuffed animals.
Building, nesting and stacking toys such as measuring
cups or plastic food containers with loose lids.
Homemade drums.
Push and pull toys, like cars and trucks.
By Around 2 Years...
Uses two- to three-word sentences.
Says names of toys.
Recognizes familiar pictures.
Feeds himself with a spoon.
Plays by himself for short periods of time
Begins make-believe play, such as using a phone, or play dishes.
Identifies hair, ears, and nose by pointing.
Shows affection.
Activities
Add the following to previous activities your child enjoyed:
Name colors as you play: "Look at the yellow duck." "You have red socks."
Fill a basket, box, or plastic tub with things your child can take out and put back in the tub.
Encourage drawing, even simple marks on paper or grocery bag.
Make reading to your child part of your day's routine.
Encourage make-believe play.
Spend time outside running and playing.
Practice walking up and down one or two steps. (Supervise carefully!)
Let your child "help" in daily chores. He loves to imitate you.
Help your child build language. Ask questions like,
"What do you see?" and "What would you like to eat".
Add more words when talking with your child. Example:
If your child says"Truck!", you can say, "Yes, that's a big,
red truck."
Toys
Toys with wheels.
Nesting and stacking toys, blocks.
Beginner's puzzles.
Toys for make-believe play.
Digging toys.
Dolls and stuffed animals.
Cars, trains, trucks.
  Children learn through imitation!
By Around 3 Years...
Walks up steps using alternating feet.
Beginning to use the toilet during the day.
Puts on shoes and socks
Turns one page of book at a time.
Uses three- to five-word sentences.
Beginning to understand "mine," "his/hers," sharing and taking turns.
More capable at toys with working parts.
Sorts things by color and shape.
Plays make-believe.
Expresses and shows affection.
Activities
Bounce a ball back and forth to each other.
Play with sand and water. Have lots of containers and
spoons for digging.

Make-believe play with props like dishes, dolls, and
dress-up clothes.

Share songs, rhymes and finger plays. Make musical
instruments! Dance and move to music!
Read to your child daily. Include books with
predictable repeated patterns, like The Little Red Hen.
Encourage outside play with supervision.
Play on the floor with your child with puzzles or building toys.
Let your child "help" with chores.
If you speak a language other than English, speak it with your child.
Allow time for your child to play with others.
Visit the library and book stores during story times.
Go to the zoo, park and other places of interest.
Toys
Books with paper pages.
Different kinds of paper and drawing supplies—
crayons and pencils.
Make-believe props.
Dolls, cars, trucks for both boys and girls.
Large blocks.
Toys for sand and water play.
Wheeled toys—for riding and pushing.
Simple four- or five-piece puzzles.
Large wooden beads or thread spools to string.
By Around 4 Years...
Balances on one foot four to eight seconds.
Jumps up and down.
Dresses and undresses with little help.
Washes hands alone.
Plays simple group games.
Asks questions beginning, "what, where, who?"
Answers basic questions.
Knows his first and last name.
Takes turns and shares toys.
Activities
Expand your child's learning in her play.
Find the letters of her name in books or magazines.
Encourage your child to sing nursery rhymes with you.
Help her count objects and say or sing the alphabet.
Let your child play outside, but never by himself.
Encourage your child to help with daily chores to learn responsibility.
Let your child play with friends her age. Teach her to share and take turns.
Give your child the chance to explore art. Make masks from paper plates or paper bags. Glue on yarn, fabric or paper. Make books.
Encourage make-believe play.
Learn about science and nature. Examples: stones, seeds, insects, magnets.
Go to the zoo, store, museums, parks and library. Talk about what you see!
Toys (for 4-6 years)
Art and writing supplies: safe scissors, glue stick, crayons, markers, chalk, finger paints, play dough, paint brushes, paint shirt (old shirt or apron) and lots of paper!
Balls.
Wheel and riding toys.
Puzzles.
Books, books on tape.
Dolls.
Large blocks, interlocking blocks (like Duplos).
Props for imaginative play: dress-up clothes, toy phones, grocery store supplies.
By Around 5 Years...
Skips.
Catches a large ball.
Bathes and dresses himself.
Speaks clearly.
Knows how to count 5 to 10 objects.
Plays cooperatively with other children.
Draws simple shapes and figures
May print a few letters.
Shows more independence
Generally likes to be with friends.
Activities
Encourage outside play and playing with friends.
Show your child how to use scissors and let him practice cutting scraps of paper.
Sing songs and read daily with your child
Listen actively to your child's stories and encourage him to use his imagination.
Encourage your child to dress himself in the morning and get ready for bath time at night.
Make a trip to the grocery store a learning experience.
Talk about different foods and colors.
5 to 6 Years...
You are helping your child get ready for school!
Practice throwing, catching and kicking different size balls.
Encourage spoken and written language. Example: Write a story as your child tells it to you. Add pictures to make your own book.
Talk with your child when you visit the library, hospital
or airport.
Help your child recognize and write her name and names of others in the family.
Point out different shapes and colors.
Let her count different objects. "How many green cars do you see?"
Count and sort things like beans, socks or spoons and forks.
Read familiar signs and symbols on cereal boxes, in magazines, and while driving in the car.
Preschool

Some things to look for in selecting a preschool:

Children spend most of their time playing and working
with materials or other children. · Children have access to various activities throughout the day: building blocks, props for pretend play, picture books, paint and art materials, table toys such as puzzles, matching games and pegboards.
Children have access to various activities throughout
the day: building blocks, props for pretend play, picture books, paint and art materials, table toys such as puzzles,
matching games and pegboards.
The classroom is decorated with the children's artwork, stories, and writing, and is displayed at child's eye level.
Children have daily outside play.
Learning is planned for both those children who are
ahead, as well as those children needing more help.
Teachers show they recognize children's different
backgrounds and experiences.
Teachers and staff are trained and certified to teach
young children.
Ready for School?
If your children have had good nutrition, have seen their
doctor regularly, and have learned through play at home
and with others...they will have the tools and self-image
they need to learn!
Schools use different ways to measure if children are
ready to start school. Contact your school at least one
year before your child will be starting to see what it
considers "ready."
Most children entering kindergarten should be able to...
Say their full names.
Talk to adults outside their family.
Write part of their name.
Use a restroom, including hand washing, without help.
Take turns.
Hop and jump.
Catch and throw a ball.
Use crayons and scissors.
Name basic colors.
Count to ten.
Sit and listen to a story.

Be aware of parts of a book and how to use one (for example, front and back of book, turning pages).

Toys
Caution: Toys should have more than one use, and encourage creativity. Action figures inspired by TV or movies may not always be the best choice to help your child learn.
Remember when choosing toys...
Movement, sound, color and texture are good. Look for toys with two or, better yet, three of these things.
Match the toy to your child's skill.
Choose toys your child will use more than one way.
Never give infants and toddlers toys with:
  - Parts that could pull off and fit into childs mouth, nose, or ear.
  - Wires or parts that get hot.
  - Lead paint.
  - Toxic materials.
  - Breakable parts.
  - Sharp points or edges.
  - Glass or brittle parts.
  - Springs, gears or hinges that pinch or trap
fingers.
Safe household items make great toys! A few examples: pots and pans, plastic food containers, boxes, plastic measuring spoons, cups and bowls.
For more information and references, visit your
local library.
For information on toys for special needs, call:
United Cerebral Palsy of Idaho       377-8070
Let's Read and Write!
From birth, your child is developing all areas of her literacy: listening, speaking, reading, writing.
  Reading and writing... A part of each day, a part of kids' play!
You can encourage your child's first steps in reading and writing by including it as a natural part of their day.
Your child learns to read and write by...
Watching you read and write. Seeing reading and
writing as useful and enjoyable. Knowing how words
and letters look and sound.
Singing and saying nursery rhymes; playing with
sounds of words.
Reading and sharing books often.
Visiting the library and going to story times.
Sharing books that have rhyme, rhythm, and repetition. Examples:
BROWN BEAR, BROWN BEAR by Bill Martin.
CAT ON THE MAT by Brian Wildsmith.
Listening to you tell her stories, and making up stories of her own.
Using reading and writing in her pretend play: reading to dolls, writing "orders" in a pretend restaurant. Sharing words and print she sees in the world around her: "on" and "off" buttons, "hot" and "cold," and store logos.
Having many chances to try writing on her own.
Having you help her and answer her questions.
Your child is learning all of the time!Her early experiences with readingand writing can create attitudesthat last for a lifetime.
Read to Me!
We often hear it is important to read to our children. It is!
It is also important to know how to read to our children.
When you read with your infants and toddlers...
Find a time and book that will be enjoyable!
Hold your child in your lap or sit close to him.
Get his attention. Example: "Oh, look at that!"
Ask a "label" question. Example: "What's that?"
Encourage your baby's response, or tell him yourself.

Give more information or feedback to your baby.
Example: "That's right... That's a ball. You have a big red ball like that."

Keep it short and simple. Your baby may only look at a few pages, or may just want to chew them.
When you read with your preschooler...
Find a time to read that is good for both you and your child. Example: bedtime or a "settle down" time after an outside activity.
Keep your voice interesting. Talk about the book and the pictures.
Ask open-ended questions, not questions with only one answer. Example: "What do you think will happen?"
Relate the book to your child's experiences. Example: "He's playing in the snow. What was it like when you played in the snow?"
Let your child practice playing with books and seeing you model:
  - Finding the book's front and back title and author.
  - Looking at the book right side up and turning pages.
  - Reading front to back, top to bottom, and left to right.
Give suggestions, but allow your child to choose the books you read.
Encourage a variety of books: storybooks, alphabet and counting books, wordless books, nursery rhymes, predictable or pattern books—ones with rhyme, rhythm, or repeated words.
For families speaking a home language other than English:
It is very important to also speak and read with your child in your home language. It will help your child learn to read and write in English.
Share stories, songs and rhymes with your child in your home language (or languages).
Remember that your family's language is an important part of who your child is!
Books to Share with Children
Your library is a wonderful place to go for books, other literacy materials, and story times. Call for their current programs and times.
The following are just a few suggestions of books to share
with your child.

Infants (Birth to 12 months)



GOOD NIGHT MOON by Margaret Wise Brown.
TRAIN LEAVES THE STATION by Eve Merriam.
WHERE'S SPOT? by Eric Hill.
Toddlers (1 to 3 years)


COME BACK KITTENS by Jan Ormerod.
RED, BLUE, YELLOW SHOE by Tana Hoban.
JUMP, FROG, JUMP by Robert Kalan.
Preschoolers (3 to 6 years)


BARN DANCE by Bill Martin, Jr. & John Archambault.
MINERVA LOUISE by Janet Morgan Stoeke.
CHICKA CHICKA BOOM BOOM by Bill Martin, Jr. & John Archambault.
Developmental Warning Signs
These early warning signs are some of the signs that a
problem may exist.
Talking
Can't say "Mama" or "Dada" by 18 months to 2 years
Can't say the names of a few toys an people by age 2
Does not use two or more words together by age 3.
Is not talking in short sentences by age 4.
Is not understood by people outside the family by age 5.
Moving
Can't sit up by herself by age 1.
Does not walk by herself by age 2.
Can't walk up and down steps by age 3.
Can't stand on one foot for a short period of time by age 4.
Does not throw a ball or can't catch a ball bounced to him by age 5.
Thinking
Does not react when you say his name by age 1.
Can't point to his hair, eyes, ears, nose and mouth by age 2.
Does not respond to language by age 3.
Does not understand simple questions by age 4.
Playing
Does not play games like peek-a-boo, patty cake, or wave bye-bye by age 1.
Does not imitate parents doing household chores by age 2.
Does not enjoy playing alone with toys by age 3.
Does not play group games with other children by age 4.
Does not share and take turns by age 5.
Hearing
Does not startle by 2 months.
Does not turn to face the source of sounds or voices by
6 months.
Has several ear infections in one year.
Talks in a very loud or very soft voice.
Often turns up the volume on tape player or TV.
Does not respond when you call from another room.
Often turns the same ear toward a sound he wants to hear.
Seeing
Does not track the face of parent or caregiver by
3 to 4 months.
Does not reach and grasp for objects by 6 months.
Can't find and pick up small objects that have been
dropped by 1 year.
Rubs her eyes or complains that her eyes hurt often.
Has red, watery, or crusty eyelids.
Holds her head in a strained way when trying to look at something.
Sometimes, or always, crosses one or both eyes.
Often holds her head at an abnormal head turn or tilt, to look at something.
Early screening is important! If you think your child may
have a problem, talk to your child's doctor or clinic. You can
also contact the following agencies for free screening:
Child Care Link
734-5900 Ext. 254
Careline
1-800-926-2588
Careline - Spanish
1-800-677-1848
MVRMC Infant Care Center
737-2378
Child Care Contacts
733-9351
Boys & Girls Club
736-7011
Salvation Army - Youth Center (After-School Program
736-7649
TTY Hearing & Speech Impaired
733-8720
Potty Training
Potty training should not be stressful. (But it sure can be!)
It should be a great source of pride and self-esteem for
your child.
Here are some tips:
Training usually begins between 2 and 3 years old. All children are different. Do not start if your child is not ready. Two things to watch for: staying dry for longer periods of time in the day, and an interest in others using the toilet. They have watched others use the toilet, and they will also want to use it.
Make sure you start training when it is also a good
time for you. You need a consistent schedule-not in
the middle of moving, or having a new baby.
Let your child pick out new "big kid" underwear.
Always use only positive verbal comments. Example: "Big kids wear underwear. Big kids go on the potty."
Potty training takes time. Be patient!
There will be many "accidents." He may not have control over his bowel and bladder for several months.
Shaming or punishing for accidents is not understood, hurts self-esteem, and may slow the training!
It is so much easier for your child to use the toilet for bowel movements if they can rest their feet on the floor. It may help to buy a small training toilet.
If they insist on using the regular toilet, find a step stool so they can rest their feet. With the regular toilet seat, hold them and watch them carefully.
Praise your child for attempts to use the toilet, even if not successful.
Two good times to put your child on the toilet: upon
waking and after eating or drinking.
Most children cannot stay dry at night for up to several years. Have your child use the toilet before bed.
Many children will continue to wet during the night for many years.
If you have any concerns, please call your doctor or clinic.
Finding the Best Child Care
Look at a number of child care settings before choosing one. Ask questions. Is the child care center licensed by Idaho (if outside the city limits), or by the city (if inside the city limits)?
If a child care center is licensed, you know that it...
Receives health and safety inspections.
Receives fire inspections.
Checks the background of all employees.
Meets minimum standards of either the state of Idaho or the city of Boise.
Think of the kind of person you want your child to be with during the day:
Do they have good references?
Do they enjoy the children?
How do they discipline?
Are they a good model for the children in how they talk and treat others?
Look carefully at the home or center:
Are the diaper changing area, bathrooms, and kitchen
areas sanitary?
Is there a large, safe outdoor area in which to play?
Is there a variety of toys in good repair?
Is it safe? Examples: play equipment and play area, water hazards.
Is it a place that promotes the development of
your child?
· Is there enough staff to:
  - Supervise children well?
  - Feed infants individually?
  - Help children with dressing?
Do they have safe transportation?
Can you visit at any time, and unannounced?
Once you have made your choice, talk with your child about their time there. Listen to your child! Spend some time with your child at the center. This may make their adjustment easier. Drop by to visit the center at different times of the day.
   
  Child Development
  Early Brain Development
  Developmental Guidelines
  From Birth to 3 Months
  By Around 6 Months
  By Around 9 Months
  By Around 12 Months
  By Around 18 Months
  By Around 2 Years
  By Around 3 Years
  By Around 4 Years
  By Around 5 Years
  5 to 6 Years
  Preschool
  Ready for School?
  Toys
  Let's Read and Write!
  Read to Me!
  Books to Share With Children
  Infants
  Toddlers
  Preschoolers
  Developmental Warning Signs
  Potty Training
  Finding the Best Child Care




  Important Numbers
You are a teacher — the most
important one your child will
ever have!
Idaho CareLine
1-800-926-2588
TTY Hearing & Speech Impaired
1-800-377-3529
South Central District Health Dept.
734-5900
Family & Children Services - Mental Health
734-4000
Infant & Toddler Program
736-2182

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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  How Children Learn
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  PreSchool
For children with special learning needs, call your local school district for a preschool screening.
Jerome Head Start
324-2385
Lincoln County Head Start, Shoshone, ID
886-7784
Orchard Valley Head Start, Wendall, ID
536-6661
Twin Falls Head Start
734-5550
West End Head Start, Buhl, ID
1-800-926-2588
Child Care Link
734-5900
Ext. 254
Idaho CareLine
1-800-926-2588
TTY Hearing & Speech Impaired
1-800-377-3529